Cranix = Doomed

[Cranix]

Check this one out. I can never find a normal flipping girl...

I'll break this one down quick, meet this girl in class, she thinks i'm awesome, we hang out for a few days. Work on homework in my basement for about three hours, spend another two hours working on eachother her BOYFRIEND comes back to town and they get back together, she shuns me for a few days before I find out what happened, she says she's sorry for it all and feels like a bitch... So I'm single again and always lookin, stuck as a hopeless romantic.... *sigh*

Guess I'll just remain as "that guy"

[Jihad]

bummer was she hot?......

you will find one someday, somewhere...believe me they're all over the place!

[Titan]

I don't mean to bum you out further, but a bit of advice from an old man...

If she was willing to cheat on her boyfriend with you, chances are that she was never worth the time in the first place.

You can do better.

[Labec]

Originally Posted by Titan

If she was willing to cheat on her boyfriend with you, chances are that she was never worth the time in the first place.

Once a cheater, always a cheater? You can do better. If and when she comes back, keep in mind what she did to you... don't give in...?

[Nikki]

Cranix,

I have to agree with Titan and Labec on this on - stay away from this one. If she tries to get back together with you again - RUN the other way. If she cheated to be with you, she would most likely have no problem cheating on you. You will find the right girl, unfortunately you sometimes have to go through the wrong ones first.

Nikki

[dwinx]

Paraphrased from Mike Birbiglia...

"I used to think there was something wrong with me....and then I met every woman I've ever met. Everything goes well for about 2 months and then one day they say, 'Hey, I was thinking we cou....I'M CRAZY.' Then they turn into a cloud of dust, blowing away in the wind and I run after them saying, 'Come back! Come back!'"

I love listening to commedy on the road. Check this guy out if you like stand up.

[SaPpHiRe]

aww, poor Cranix *hug*

I don't think you're "doomed" (although I love that word lol...). I mean, you're a really nice guy, funny, cute and all that jazz. There are plenty of good women out there.
It's just a matter of getting to know them better before jumping into the relationship or physical stuff. It can save you from lots of trouble and emotional turbulence.
The best thing to look for to know when a relationship would work, is communication. Your best bet , is someone who's able to say whatever's on their mind, and who isn't holding things back from you. Honesty and straight-forwardness = winning combo. That way, you don't get hurtful surprises.
And like I said, give yourself the time to know the girls better. I know someone like you wouldn't have trouble finding a lady.

<3 Sapphy

[FecalMatter]

Dude, been there, done that!

I'm getting married April 19th, 2008 and thought i'd never see the day. Especially after being engaged for FOUR years to my ex and having to buy out her part of MY house! 1 bit of advice, don't EVER buy a house together if you're not married hehe

It'll happen man, but always when you least expect it!

And totally, 100% agree with what everyone else said... Cheaters SUCK! And you can never trust them. Cracks me up when someone is dating someone that cheated on their previous and then wonder why/how they cheated on them! It's their nature, they just can't help it!

And there are PLENTY of women out there... some cute little thing is just sitting there saying, "Damn, why can't I find a cute, geek that plays CS:S all day long!"!!!! Just messing with you... my fiance cracks up at me playing and watches over my shoulder!

Hang in there buuuuudddy!

[Cranix]

Yeah, lol, thanks guys. I already know!!! It just seems like that's all I find! ARRRG!!! Ah well, whatever, I'll live to fight another day.

[mAXfORCE]

Originally Posted by Cranix

Check this one out. I can never find a normal flipping girl...

I'll break this one down quick, meet this girl in class, she thinks i'm awesome, we hang out for a few days. Work on homework in my basement for about three hours, spend another two hours working on each other her BOYFRIEND comes back to town and they get back together, she shuns me for a few days before I find out what happened, she says she's sorry for it all and feels like a bitch... So I'm single again and always lookin, stuck as a hopeless romantic.... *sigh*

Guess I'll just remain as "that guy"

Dude, I have quite a different take on this matter than the others here (cheater this, stay away......etc. etc.). Did you all read my man's post?? It says "her BOYFRIEND comes back to town and they get back together". Maybe not be the most upstanding thing to do, but not cheating.

Just a little friendly advice. Please read carefully as I think you have much to learn.

Obviously she was just looking for a little 'sexual gratification', which you eagerly provided her. From what you're saying there were no promises made on either one of your parts. Accept it for what it was, a nice little fling. Important: Be cool and DON'T hold it against her, and most improtantly, don't hold against yourself. If she expresses an interest to do it again and you should be so inclined, then 'get your freak on baby'. Just realize, that may be all she's looking for from you (a lotta guys out there would love such an 'arrangement'). If you're not interested, than simply just tell as much.

I haveta say, the one thing you wrote which kinda bothers me (and please don't take this personally) is when you said "So I'm single again and always lookin". A quick word of advise, stop "always looking". You sound fairly young....so just enjoy being young. When truly 'the right girl' comes along then everything should fall nicely into place. Until then, live life happy, don't hold grudges, and remember, every girl you meet out there isn't going to be "Mrs.Right". So accept each relationship for what it is, and LEARN from each relationship. Above all, don't come across as 'clingy' or act like a little 'bitch' by whining about "how you were treated".

There's a related philiosophy I believe in strongly that I'm passing on to my three sons. I will share that with you, and the best way for me to do it, believe it or not, is by posting lyrics from a 38 Special song titled "Hold On Loosely". I strongly recommend that all guys out there follow suit.

You see it all around you
Good lovin' gone bad
And usually it's too late when you, realize what you had
And my mind goes back to a girl I left some years ago,
Who told me,
Just Hold On Loosely, but don't let go
If you cling to tightly,
you're gonna lose control
Your baby needs someone to believe in
And a whole lot of space to breathe in

It's so damn easy, when your feelings are such
To overprotect her, to love her too much
And my mind goes back to a girl I left some years ago
Who told me,
Just Hold On Loosely, but don't let go
If you cling too tight babe,
you're gonna loose control
Your baby needs someone to believe in
And a whole lot of space to breathe in

Thanks for reading my post.

[soleft]

ye good advice, just difficult to get that median. Too loose, they think I don't care, too tight they realize I'm crazy. I usually wait about 5 months to admit I'm crazy and often dream of throwing my money into a savings account, freezing myself, waking up 1000 years in the future. Then spending my savings on a space cruiser, the ones that have fighters come out of the mothership (how awesome is that) and then I'll be a space pirate. I'll call myself beardless da funk and wear 80's retro clothing and listen to Calvin Harris, Daft Punk and other techo tunes while blasting away confederate ass in space while doing the robot, just to show that I'm not even trying. All your base are belong to me!

[Cranix]

Alright, I guess you really should know the rest of the story. I was just making it quick, so it could be down and I could physically walk away from it, needed a short release in a way, and nikki is usually right on.

We'd been talking in class and she was playing the sympathy card, she'd just lost her boyfriend, he'd been cheating on her, yatta yatta. We started hanging out in public places and that went on to just being at our houses (moved kind of fast for me, took about three days :/).

She wanted to talk about dating and was saying that her boyfriend was an a*****e but she still loved him. This was the talk of the last night we hung out while doing homework. It was some serious chem homework though, with graphs and s***, and I was tired. We were makin out and the clothes started to fly and this is prob what threw her, you guys might even get pissed at me too, lol. She really wanted to have sex, but I'm a virging and am waiting till I'm married. At the time she said it didnt bother her and we did... other things... So she left and we talked for another day or two and I saw her in class. But a few days after she literally just stopped talking to me. Completely cut off. The day I posted the begining of this thread I was just at a loss for words and didnt feel like talking about the WHOLE thing. So that jerk move to you guys is all my fault, sorry. She did go on to explain her boyfriend came back to her with an honest appology and she said she loved him so they got back together and I felt slightly more than lead on.... But that's the whole thing....

And when I say always lookin, just meant I've always got my hopes up, I'm a hard person to keep down

[sir-understeer]

I was gonna say, if she was a cheater, put her on your GBL. If you can demo her, then damn, she is done for.










*ahem*

All CS:S jokes aside, don't settle man, find the girl that you like and if you guys are compatible, you'll know it.

When I met my fiance she was trying to hook me up with one of her friends, which didn't work out. Little did I know she had a thing for me the second she saw me. I mean, I was checking her out all night too, but I wasn't really looking for any kind of relationship or anything at the time. Just single and looking for some fun I guess.

Anyway, 5 years later, I can't live without her, and aside from a couple of things that I have a problem with (let's face it, if she was 100% like me, I'd be marrying myself in female form.... nobody wants to have a carbon copy of themselves in female form), she's perfect for me.

So yeah, don't be a fool and settle. Keep looking.

Oh, and this is probably the most clichéd saying ever, but usually, the love of your life literally walks right in front of you when you least expect it.