Things getting old?

[God-like]

I have a question XD Not that I need help but I need some advice probly lol. Ok Ive been with my fiance for 2 in a half years. Ive done Everything possible I can think of to set the mood still, To make her in a "Loveable mood" As in Not in a sexual way but more like "Cuddling" Or do something to make her look my way XD Ive made her vids on the computer (love songs and ect) , Ive gave her flowers countless of times, I tell her she's beatiful Everyday at least 3+ times. We have a great sex life. Where having a kid in february. I set mood by candles, Rose pedals on the bed, and Rose pedals in the tub with candles Um... Watched sunsets together, Just seems lately like everytime I try to do something special with her, She just acts like its normal. So what should i do? Give me some good advice lol.

[Guns]

Seems to me like u have spoiled her..that is normal for her if u do it all the time..Some of those things seem like they should be done now and again for a special day of the month or year?? U have gotten her acustom to being spoiled and u doing nice things for her.? U might have to top it off with something big to make her not seem like its normal.lol ...I dunno.

Those are very nice things to do for ur lady dont get me wrong,but when she sees it and u do it more often then not it becomes routine.

[fraps]

God Like... I know to well your pain. Now flowers or 2 hr long massage are not out of ordinary and is almost expected. So much for being romantic when it's expected. Women!?!?!?!?!

[God-like]

Well like her birthday was the 3rd, her mom or dad didnt get her nothing cause her mom didnt have money but they got her a cake, and she was telling me on the way to my house she wanted her own cake lol, And i told her she had to wait till the 5th to get any presents from me anyways it was the 3rd and we got to my house and I had lit candles and she acted a bit supprised then i told her to watch the video i made for her happy birthday amanda i love you << Click the link(you cant really see the words unless its playing on windows media player, from that link you can also see a few other vids i made for her.) Then after the end of it i told her to look on my bed, and there was a glass rose and a birthday card i bought for her (Supprise lol) Then took her into the kitchen and in the oven was a cake not really much for a b-day but trying to be romantic, also Went swimming that night (Which is very very seldom, she loves swimming and i hate it, first time ive been in 1 year an a half) anyways she is currently at her moms and wont be back untill the 11th. And ya i'm thinking i should slow down on doing things for her, But I'm wanting to do something big for her to "reallly supprise her" in a romantic way, Anybody got any idea's

[TJ1adam12]

Originally Posted by God_like

Where having a kid in february.

Her being pregnant can surely alter her personality etc….. Maybe right now she’s NOT feeling sexy etc… and that’s why you’re not getting the responses you were looking for? Becoming pregnant is surly a significant emotional event (S.E.E.) which often times can dramatically change ones personality. Sometimes it’s a permanent change and other times it’s temporary. Time will tell…………

She just acts like its normal. So what should i do? Give me some good advice lol.

One of the phrases/questions that I have perfected in my 25+ years of marriage that might assist you would be to simply state; “______(her name), have I done something recently that upset or offended you?”

What you have done by asking this question is to take ownership that it may have been something you have done, but furthermore, typically the question will be followed by an “Oh no, I have just been feeling crappy lately” or something to that effect. The great part of asking this question is typically you’re then going to be asked why you asked such a question, hence, this opens the window of opportunity to say something to the effect of;

“Well it’s just that I have been trying to set the mood and make sure you know how much I love you etc… but lately, you just seem to not even notice all the nice things I do”

BAMB, you have just been able to voice your concern without it initially sounding like your complaining…yee haw! The only caution I will tell you is, be prepared for hearing an answer you may not have expected.

Best of luck to you.

T.J.

[God-like]

Wow, Great advice XD I'll see how things go the 11th then. I will certainly keep that in mind, Never really thought about that. Sometimes miss the most important but simple things.
Thanks.

[Nikki]

God_like,

I think TJ has called it on this one.

Keeping in mind that I loved being pregnant with all of my 3 kids - it does HORRIBLE, AWFUL things to a woman's body and mind!!!! Especially since she is so early in her pregnancy she may just plain not feel good.

A few hints if she is having problems with "morning sickness" (which can happen anytime of day for those of you that don't know) - you can get lollipops that come in flavors to help reduce nausea. They are called "Preggie Pops". Google them - they are fantastic. Sometimes she may be in a bad mood - the only 3 words you need to know - "You're right Amanda".

Just keep in mind - it only lasts 9 months and you get a great reward at the end. Just listen to her and be there. That's what she'll need most.

Nikki

[XTR3M3]

If you have the right woman, it never gets old. I will have been married for 17 years this coming November and it still isn't old....enjoy each other

[God-like]

Lol we had a talk today, She told me that she just gets moody and she dont mean to but "Likes" to fight sometimes Lol i told her okies i can go along with that, I know most of the problem I believe, She's worried about the baby since things went wrong a year ago in the last pregnacy.

[Nikki]

See - I told you pregnancy does horrible things to women!!!

Hang in there!

Nikki

[God-like]

Yuppperz lol, Thanks Nikki