help please: getting started

[bishop]

ok so im starting this from pretty much scratch.

theres a girl i really like from school, obviously school is out now, but i still see her fridays because we fence together. we are both 17 or in that range. ive been interested in her for about 2 years. so far i have taken her on one date, we didnt really call it that though, we went and saw eregon together. and id always get her a rose for valentines or a gift for any other special occasion. a few months before school was out i asked her to be my girlfriend which was probably a big mistake being so soon. and now i feel like a big dope and im to nervous to go anyfarther.

please help.
bishop (scott)

[Boobsmagee]

It sounds like you were obviously showing her your fealings to an extent, so i dont see you asking her out at that time a mistake, more likely kinda late in the game lol. You didnt tell us though, if she said yes or no to being your g/f?

FENCING? not very often do i hear of people still taking part in activities like that lol, do you let her win? :P


~Rob

[bishop]

late huh, alright. she didnt say yes or no, she said she needed time to think about it. shes had like 3 or more months which makes me nervous.

let her win? shes been doing it for atleast 3 years more than me, i can have a hard time keeping up to her, lol. yeah fencing is kinda old school but still really fun.

[seroone]

Well B from my expiernces in asking girls out I have heard a different mount of answeres the one I dreaded the most was the "Can i have time to tink about it" I felt beyond nervous when I heard that response and I didnt know how to act around her for about a week but I stayed the same. If she had said Can I have time to think about it three months ago and you two still chat and it never comes up there is a good probability that it is a No. I heard that response twic the first time i heard it i gave her a week and was told i "rushed" her so the ability to hold back and be able to wait three months is incredable, but let loose cant be wound up around her or nervous it will only become more wierd when you dont talk to her for long periods of time.

[Nikki]

Bishop,

I would take another shot at it and ask her on a date. See if she wants to go see a movie, go to dinner, etc. You could also check out local events in your area and come up with something more creative. If you asked her to be your girlfriend 3 months ago and have not asked her on a date since then, it's possible that she may not have taken you seriously. You are going to have to talk to her to find out. Just be prepared for her answer either way. Also, if she tells you no, do your best not to let it affect your friendship. It sounds like you have been friends for to long to let hurt feelings get in the way.

Good Luck!!

Nikki

[bishop]

thanks a lot guys, and Nikki, this is really helping.

Im still pretty normal around her, we can still just talk about stuff and have some fun.

why is it so hard to talk to girls about things like relationships?

ill try taking her out again, maybe just hanging out at the mall or something together with a couple friends? shes kinda into the horror movie thing which isnt my thing, although ive seen some pretty demented stuff. i think i forgot to mention we're both goth, im kinda new at the goth thing though.

i believe its possible she didnt take it seriously so ill keep trying.

thanks
Bishop

[Boobsmagee]

Alright i see now.

Goth could change this to a whole ball park, that most people probably havnt played in :P, overall id say slowly make your move, getting closer, asking her to more movies, and idk, just being more lovey dovey. I agree with others above, she either forgot, she didnt take you seriously, or in the worst case, was afraid to let you down (considering your pretty close as it is). So do as what nikki said, go to local events with her, and stuff like that, you dont actually have to make it official yet. If shes not fealing the same way about you, as you feal about her, being around her more, can change that. Do things she wants to do more often than not. I would usually say, listen more than you speak, less of a chance to make a fool of yourself, and can make you appear as though your a listening caring guy, who she should want to know more. Problem is you've obviously known her a while lol.

best of luck to you

~Rob

Ps, if you dont have one, or your parents arnt rich, get a job, cuz this is most likely gonna be hella expensive

[bishop]

im looking for a job as we speak, and thanks for the advice.

[bishop]

new question.

i have got tickets to a concert but she doesnt like the band thats playing, should i bother asking her and go through the rejection just to get points or should i just not worry about it?

[Nikki]

Bishop,

If you are still interested in going out with her - then ask her to the concert. She might say no since she doesn't like the band, but she may say yes because she likes you . You won't know unless you take a chance at it.

Nikki

[bishop]

thanks for the help

[TJ1adam12]

Originally Posted by bishop

new question.

i have got tickets to a concert but she doesnt like the band thats playing, should i bother asking her and go through the rejection just to get points or should i just not worry about it?

Ah…. This could possibly answer many of your questions. If you know for a fact that it is NOT a band she likes, by asking her to go to the concert you will have a better idea if she’s really is attracted to you….

I would guess that if she agreed to go to a concert that she doesn’t like who’s playing, then she agreed to go because she likes who is taking her <wink wink>

On a lighter side, have you considered “Taking-a-fall” while you’re fencing with her? You know, fake an injury, etc….(I’m seriously lmao) How great would it be if she then had to nurture through the recovery process lmao…….. j/k what can I say, I loved being nurtured

It could backfire, she could think you’re a real, um, baby, yea baby, that’s it…. So understand that I’m totally kidding about taking a fall…..

<<<Quickly retreats from Nikki’s section as she is probably going to kick my butt for joking in her section>>> running for the safe haven of my
“Men’s Crises Center”

Good luck

[Nikki]

LOL TJ!

Since you retracted your suggestion about him faking the injury, I will let you off easy - THIS TIME!!

Nikki

[PolskieGangsta]

ummm, am sorry buh i dont really understand that =\ ??? umm wanna restate what ever u were sasying, if it is important for me 2 know or something =p ?