Sex, Is it really that important?

[EVILCoRpSe]

Sex has been a big part of my life its like a drug... Once I started I couldnt stop and havent been able to since. I started at an early age of 8 or 9 I cannot remember exactly.. But of course I didnt pick up a partner till much later.. so if you feel the need you can take care of it yourself with no fear of pregnancy ,disease ,or really anything else.. Its just a feeling no matter how you look at it.. Oh and not to boast I have had sex with hundreds of wemon, but only a few were actually present..lol

[dburt01]

Funny man...

Sex is a serious issue. And its not something to take lightly. The reason we have so many sexually transmitted diseases and the AIDs pandemic is because of the world's casual approach to sex. The reason we have the highest abortion rate ever, is beacause of the world's casual approach to sex and babies, little humans become an inconvenience. Fact.

I don't want to get too melodramatic, but it seems to me like the world is losing its soul and values are pouring down the drain left, right and centre... the world has become a "ME CENTRED" universe whereby everyone puts their own wants, needs and desires before others - even above a person's right to live - the unborn child gets no say do they...

People seem to want things their way, and according to their schedule and damn anyone who gets in the way. They want pleasure and no responsibility. Its pure selfishness ultimately. This is the world we live in people and it makes me sad.

And it's the same with sex. People put their own needs, wants and desires first. It's a case of getting your pleasure, having a great time and the consequences are rarely even considered... some people think its worth the risk.

Once upon a time it was frowned upon to sleep with someone outside of marriage. You would become a social outcast if you engaged in such activities... nowadays, it's just "what people do". That shows how far humanity has fallen if you ask me - it no longer shocks people.

We sing love songs the world over about 2 becoming 1. It's a classic saying. Actually, this is a biblical and Christ centred definition of marriage and the joining of 2 souls together through sex. A man and a woman becoming spiritually tied to each other through the act of sex that is... that's not spoken about very much these days either. No-one considers the spiritual consequences of what they're doing... truth is, each time you sleep with someone its more than just fun... there's a whole spiritual dynamic to it that you've not even considered.

BUT, its my deep conviction that all of us, young and old can and should be in pursuit of love, family and putting others first. Relationships HAVE to come first and sex second or third or fourth, you get the idea. I do believe that's the way God planned it from the start ladies and gentlemen. Marriage is wonderful and sex is like the jewel in that wonderful crown...

If sex is more important to you than committing to someone, you will no doubt have a lot of fun and you will no doubt enjoy yourselves. But you've no idea how much hurt and pain you could be storing up for you and your sleeping partner, and the statistics prove that your relationship is more than likely to fail.

And don't think that Burty is some old fuddy duddy who's having a winge either... I've only just turned 28 people! I got married at 23. And I waited until I got married before I had sex for the first time - imagine how happy my wife-to-be was when she walked down the aisle in front of 250 people, knowing that no-one else had ever been with me and that I had saved everything just for her!!! What a privilege.

And now on December 8th, I'm expecting my first child. She will be called Emily Grace Burt. The pregnancy was planned and the child is already loved by both of us. We both have stable jobs, a house and are looking forward to a great future together as a family.

Think about it carefully people.

Lots of love. xXx Burty xXx

[AaronH]

I've learned a lot by reading this forum. Im 15 and its good for me to take a real persons opinion rather than the guidance of my religious roman catholic family whom I think is crazy.

[dburt01]

LOL hehehe.

[the-cube]

lost my V-card when I was 17. now im 20. and I have it practically everyday.

but

kids having sex at 14, and lower is disgusting.
thats all I have to say

[Bobson]

A few people have shared their opinions that sex is "essential" for an adult.

I'm going to be totally honest here, and I think that's fair considering this is a topic for a mature audience. I don't mean adults only, I mean anyone who can read this with maturity, plain and simple.

The first time I had sex, I was 19, and I did it because I was curious what the big deal was. Yes, I'd had orgasms before this. Either way, my first time was when I was 19. I slept with a girl who meant nothing to me. I regretted it within mere seconds after the "climax" of the evening... to be perfectly frank, it didn't do anything at all for me that masterbating didn't do.

So after some time had passed, I decided that maybe the reason it didn't do all that much for me was because the girl meant nothing, or maybe it was just the fact that I really didn't know what I was doing, or any other reason. Long story short, I decided to have sex a second time, this time with a girl I had been friends with for about 6 months, and began having romantic feelings for. We went to dinner, talked at her place afterward, basically discussed what we were about to do, then ...went at it.

This time I didn't regret it until the next morning.

Bottom line, no. Sex isn't important. There is NO age where you're "ready for sex." 10xSniper's dad put it well, but I don't think he included the most important part. Absolutely, being financially capable, emotionally ready, and mature are obviously important. But if I could go back, I wouldn't do it again. I *really* wish I was a virgin - I wish I could tell girls (and myself) that I made the choice to wait for marriage, because now I realize how important that is to me.

Been three years since I've had sex, and that's one thing I'm happy to be able to say, because even to this day, I've never been in love.

It's like Burty said, man. It's not about what anyone else thinks, it's about what's important to you.

[Serov]

thank you for your post dburt01. I agree completely 100%.

kids - listen to him. life is all fun and games till you get diagnosed with AIDS and heartache

[norm-from-cheers]

I'm highly taken aback at all the misogynistic comments in here. It is an extremely conservative opinion to say that one has to be willing to live with the consequences of procreation for one to enjoy sex. You and your partner should practice safe sex and take steps to avoid pregnancy, and if pregnancy occurs, have an abortion.

Punishing sexually active women to bare the burdens of raising a child because she wants to enjoy sex is deplorable! What if a woman is simply too poor to properly raise a child?. Should she be forced into a position of economic servitude for this bourgeois morality -- because she dared to enjoy sex and explore her sexuality?

When you are at an age when you are able to maturely discuss with your partner issues of pregnancy, abortion, and contraceptives you should be able to start exploring you and your partners sexuality. Follow your state law and be safe.

[wowcamu]

Originally Posted by AkaAvenger

honestly, sex is like a drug. you kinda get the same feeling while havin an orgasm and relate it smokin a doobie with ur friends. [of course both of those at the same time is great ]
Sex in my opinion is not important at all. ALTHOugh it'd be a good thing to do in life without causing the girl pregnant of course >_>

yeah as you id i prefer to ve a strong relantionship then get a girl pregnant then you know the rest...

[RAZR]

I'm one of the lucky ones..... My oldest was born when I was 17!!!! I (we) survived and I'm still married to his mother 24 years later!! Not many folks can say that these days!!!

17+24=41...I'm actually 17, and I'm not ready for having

children, still I do sex, but I take it seriously.... I think... ok if I'm not drunk j/k.

^^

It only happened 1 time(drunk), and I don't really remember it. Still, other than that I try

to protect myself by putting the ''right thing'' on my minime ( phew, I was able

to say it in a familly server ^^ ).

[Skylis]

Yes. It is important, a primal urge. . something you cannot suppress unless you're just a zombie.

[L-veotz]

I know that sex can be an important part of a serious, long-term relationship...however, sex is overrated. There are many complicaitons thta can arise due to getting involved in sex. I understand that it feels great, and that, like just about anything else in life can seem like a drug (and possibly become addicting), but that's why people should wait until they are possitive that they can deal with any of the negative outcomes that can arise due to sex. (like unwanted pregnancies, venereal diseases, possible shame from culture).

[weaver]

I agree. Being close.. without the sex.. can sometimes be 100x more gratifying. Sex is rapid.. heat enveloping.. and comes to an end entirely to quickly (no matter how good you are).

You can hold your lover and breathe in time with them for.. hours..

[mackpeterxd]

im a virgin, but i tihnk it's important. im only in highschool but my teacher lectures us about this a lot. (Im a christian) My teacher told me that God made sex to be something for a husband and a wife, to enjoy. and theres the line from sex to adultery =OOO anyways... sex is important, it shouldn't be tampered/played with =OOO - Peter Out